I am called to write this today, as it’s an important part of my life’s journey, so hopefully it will also resonate with you. I wanted to write about self-definition,
If you have people pleasing tendencies, and do your best to always be a ‘good’ person and a ‘nice’ person, you are likely to come across many people who will take advantage of you.
Boundaries are something that our parents and caregivers help us to develop through letting us know that our feelings matter, and helping us to tune into these feelings, and understand the messages they bring.
Do you feel things very deeply? Do you feel the emotions of others, feel what animals are feeling, and the moment you step into a place, immediately have information about what is going on there? Do you unconsciously take the energetic pulse (happy, sad, excited, angry, tranquil, crazed, longing, frustrated, f*cking pissed off…?) of the place and receive all kinds of information about people, whether you are interested or not.
How do you know if you are a people pleaser? Basically it means that you are outsourcing respect and love for yourself to others in your life. If you don’t yet fully love, accept and trust yourself, you may find yourself looking outwards to other people for validation of your worth.
When we are really affected by the energies swirling around us, and particularly by other people’s energy, we can easily be pulled into a vortex of drama and negativity without realising it. Other people might be in such a convoluted inner state that they project all of their own inner turmoil onto us without realising what they are doing. And this can feel awful.
I recently experienced a situation where someone projected a lot of their inner reality onto me, making me the cause of their own unaddressed emotional pain.
To heal hearts through bringing more space for love to all whom I meet.
A world where we heal conflict by looking within and feeling what needs to be felt, before connecting in peace, truth and love with the outer world.